Fantasy Football Aggression, Extra Work Without Promotions, And More — Ask Your Manager
A special “Where Are You Now?” season of “Ask a Manager” features updates from those who have answered letters here in the past. Here are four updates on him from past letter writers.
1. Aggression in fantasy football leagues
A better update would be appreciated. Since I am fairly low in the company’s HR hierarchy, I was only able to tell my boss that this manager’s behavior was very concerning and that he needed to be monitored. This concern was right because someone else reported him to HR shortly after I wrote to you about his public conversation on LinkedIn. It’s more offensive and politically controversial, and the company doesn’t want to get involved. My boss had to speak to him again and he this time sent her a two page rant about feeling persecuted at her place of work. I’ve never read anything like this before, especially in a professional context, and I want to send it to you. My boss also simply took notes and moved on. She has since retired, but thankfully her replacement takes these things more seriously than she does. It’s been months now and someone from this manager’s department has been transferred only because of personality clashes due to the manager’s aggressive demeanor.
The manager does a very difficult job very well and is well loved by his boss, but in my opinion he shouldn’t be managing people. He has since deleted his LinkedIn profile entirely. He finally seems to have decided to keep his beliefs to himself, and my new boss is watching closely to make sure he sticks to his beliefs. My previous boss was more receptive to some of these behaviors than my current boss, so I think the move was more necessary than anyone realizes. People are becoming more and more involved in this culture, and more referrals are coming than ever before. I wrote to you because I questioned my reaction compared to my ex-boss, but you wanted a reality check that I wasn’t overreacting, but rather she was underreacting. He gave me I am much more confident in my position now and know that if something like this happens again, I am not going to cover it up.
2. My boss says I’m not ready for a promotion, but he’s giving me above-pay grade work.
In my first letter, I said my boss was giving me a job above my pay grade, but I wasn’t ready for a promotion. Shortly before this letter was issued, I am pleased to report that I have started a new job. That job increased his salary by 25% and gave him a more flexible work-life balance. I had the best interview of my career.
There are a few things I wanted to touch on in my original letter. An important factor I didn’t include in my initial letter is that my boss intends to fill a new position in our department, Senior Z, which requires a few more years of experience. and said he knew I was not qualified. for it.
In addition to being “unprepared”, my boss said that creating this new position would not leave enough room in the budget to promote me. I didn’t include this information because I thought my boss would be disqualified if he read his AAM. It’s possible that the reduced budget was a valid reason for me to be promoted, but there was absolutely no talk of any other job suitable for me at our university. (“Our department cannot promote you to Senior X, but another department is hiring Senior Y for a very similar role.”)
I work in the field of higher education and was surprised at how many of the commenters had similar experiences. Contrary to some commenters’ speculation, I don’t work in a Res Life or student-facing role. I do not envy people who are in such a position. You are earnestly doing the work of the Lord.
To be honest, I didn’t want to leave the university or the people I worked with. I tried very hard to stay with the company. In his field, he applied for five different jobs, but after coming close to getting a job offer several times, nothing stuck. But at the end of the day, you have to protect yourself, and so did I. I chose my career, and more importantly myself, over my employer, and I don’t regret it one bit. I love my new job, but I plan to continue with the same mindset.
Thanks again to all the commenters and of course to Allison for her helpful advice throughout her career.
3. My boss interrupts me during my presentation (#2 in the link)
My 20-minute presentation was sandwiched between two other 20-minute presentations at that hour, so no one had extra time. My boss didn’t have time to add comments to my story or impulsively pep, but wrote down a few phrases to remember. Because that’s what I really needed. A polite and precise way of reminding her to let me tell her story in my slide turn. And trust me I know better than her on the subject (actually I do).
My talk was well received, and I was asked to do more in-depth training for internal leaders on the subject. There may be interruptions here, but we’re ready now.
Thanks to all the readers for their advice!
4. Can I contact the CEO who offered me a job in the past and ask about the current vacancy? (#4 in the link)
tl;dr: I didn’t contact the CEO, but I got a new job.
I work in the tech industry and obviously there have been a lot of layoffs and hiring freezes lately. Shortly after I sent the email, the CEO’s startup deleted all job listings, so I figured it wouldn’t be a good time to reach out. Also, I was disappointed when the company I applied for never contacted me.
but! It was a blessing in disguise! I spent some time thinking about what I wanted out of my work life: what I liked about my job, what adjustments I had to make to be tolerant of it, and other things. We spent time defining what an ideal job would look like at a location. That clarity was very helpful when I finally got the interview. I was able to quickly filter out roles that could not have been better than the work I was doing and find a few roles that were all greenlit. I started a new job a few weeks ago and have been doing great so far.